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I watched the Duggar’s visit to China tonight along with most of the Chinese adoption community.

I have also read many of the negative comments virally exploding on Facebook about such a large family considering growing their family even more by adoption.

I even read one very critical comment suggesting the Duggars should have thought about adopting fifteen children ago.


As a mom of quite a few biological children and two adopted teens from China, I have much to say on this topic.

There is a basic truth that we have somehow lost sight of in this country that was once so rooted and grounded on the principles of God.

God is all about life and creating, about growing and expanding.

He gives life.

He is not limited by our finite, tiny minds and narrow scopes of how many children we think we can handle.

As a mother of many who never did anything to avoid having children, I strongly disagree with the mindset that we must limit the number of biological children we have in order to care for orphans. God is bigger than all of that. He can bless families with huge numbers of biological children AND BRING THE ORPHANS HOME.

We do not need to limit God or to prevent life in one fashion to welcome it in another.

God has all the power in the world to bring the children home and bless us abundantly, if He so chooses, with many biological children.

Furthermore, it’s not the huge families who have learned to trust God for their family size that are perpetuating the orphan crisis. It is the mindset of many smaller families, the mindset that says no to God, the mindset that doesn’t have room for more in their lives that keeps the orphans from coming home.

And it is not God who is so busy creating new life that allows the orphans to suffer and remain alone.

It is His body, the church that has taken their eyes off the suffering Savior, and instead come to value comfort and ease and amusement, that fails to bring the orphans home.

Of course large families are adopting the children.

Large families have had to learn to go against society and even the church to grow their family beyond their own comprehension.


Merely having a big family grows one’s faith immensely.

Large families have come to understand that resources don’t divide and diminish with each child. They grow and multiply.

Large families know that God provides.


Large families know that God grows their resources just as He grew the loaves and the fishes.

Those who give to the poor will lack nothing, but those who close their eyes to them receive many curses. Proverbs 28:27

Large families have learned to step out of the rat race and busyness of life and to spend time at home working with and tending to their children.

Large families have already learned by necessity to structure and manage more in their lives.

Large families typically homeschool their children which can be the perfect environment for an older child who has grown up in an orphanage and is not developmentally ready for traditional schooling.

Large families view children as God sees children, as blessings from His very own hand.

3 Children are a heritage from the Lord,
offspring a reward from him.
4 Like arrows in the hands of a warrior
are children born in one’s youth.
5 Blessed is the man
whose quiver is full of them.
They will not be put to shame
when they contend with their opponents in court. Psalm 127:3-5


Parents of large families have already laid their desires and dreams at the feet of Jesus and know that their fulfillment will come in serving their Savior and welcoming His gifts into their lives.

Parents of large families know that there is no greater joy than following God’s will.

Parents of large families know they can parent another. They have done it over and over again.


Parents of large families have parented many children with various personalities. They have years of life experience and wisdom.

Not only are the parents of large families overwhelmingly prepared and willing to welcome another, but the children are as well.


Children from large families are blessed to understand that they are a part of something bigger than themselves. They learn to give and to share.

Children from large families know the world does not revolve around them.


Children of large families value the friendships they have with their siblings.

Children from large families are happy, fulfilled and deeply loved.

A large family provides a fertile, welcoming, stimulating, loving community for an adopted child to immediately become a part of.

Large families welcome more children with an adeptness and skill that no brand new parent could rival.

Sometimes it is an established family that is prepared to care for the children with bigger challenges and needs.

Of course large families are adopting the children.

Of course large biological families are extremely well prepared to care for orphaned children.

May God use the Duggars to bless many orphans through their voice and may He use us to do the same.

And may God grow the faith of His people and bring the children home!


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